Monday, January 22, 2007

How hard can it be?

It doesn't matter if you are a stay at home mom, a work at home mom or a work outside the home mom, each have issues that come along with it. The media is famous for trying to make one out to be worse than the other. In reality neither is worse, each mom/dad has to decide what works for their family and no one has the right to judge them.

Let's look at stay at home moms, typical stereotype of sitting all day on their butts, watching TV and eating. Obviously the people who think that have never stayed at home with kids. Being a stay at home mom opened my eyes, and I found in my life that staying home was 10 times harder than being at work.
Being a sahm is hard, you are in control of your house, your kids everything 24 hours a day/7 days a week/365 days a year. That's a lot of work! Most sahm to kids under the age of 3 typically can't use the bathroom alone, can't sit and read for more than 5 mins of uninterrupted time. It's hard to even get dinner cooked much less prepare lunch for themselves or the kids.

Work at home moms fall into the middle category because though they are sahm's they have a business to work as well. So not only do they have to take care of the normal stuff, they also need to find time to work their business in order for them to stay home. Many wahms will work when their children are napping and/or in the evening when dad is home.

Then we have our strong work outside the home moms which are in a league of their own. Moms who work outside should get the same respect as a stay at home mom. Most working moms work because they have to, some because they want too but mostly because they have to.
Working moms give up a lot in order to provide for their family, they miss out on so much of their children's lives and time with their spouse. They miss the firsts with their kids, they often miss out on school activities due to work.

So all in all each have pros and cons and only you can decide whats best for you and your family. Don't let others look down at you for staying home or working, hold your head high and do what it takes.

SAHM: Being home with the kids
WAHM: Being home with the kids
WOHM: Getting outside the house

SAHM: Rarely getting a break from the kids
WAHM: Working the business, missing quality time with the kids
WOHM: Missing a lot of quality time with the kids

No matter which you are there will be issues that come up, and you just have to set up your priorities so that you find that balance for you and your family.

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